Defeatist Attitude Rife in NZ
How often the tall poppy raises its ugly head. Let's face it, knockers have low self esteem. They love failure and hate success. They are too lazy to raise their own game and achieve more in their life instead they wallow in trying to bring others down to their level of thinking.
It is a form of mental bullying from adults so no wonder our schools has one of the highest percentages of bullies when the children's role models are their parents. Every person has some challenges to overcome to be successful. Half of people get their thoughts stuck in 'poor me' or 'it's too hard' thinking and stay failures.
A huge congratulation to Jesse Ryder for stepping up to the mark. He has a passion and a dream and he is working to achieve it. Like everyone he has challenges but what New Zealander doesn't. He had the most runs in the game, some fantastic shots and all many people focus on is one hit.
A few weeks ago it was Sonny Bill Williams, another amazing sportsperson. There is no-one like him in New Zealand and yet people 'knock' him.
New Zealanders should be asking these guys this question:' how do you do it? I'm failing in my life, I don't feel great about me, what can you teach me to turn my life around.'
The late Sir Peter Blake said: "If it wasn't difficult - it wouldn't be worthwhile doing".
So with difficulty a step on the ladder to success, New Zealanders need to have the confidence to keep climbing their personal ladders. Those who get hooked into 'it's too hard' or 'I deserve to be looked after' or 'I can't because?' or 'I don't know what to do' are all lacking from self belief in themselves and ability to achieve. Lack of confidence, low self esteem and not believing one can achieve all go hand in hand with 'let's beat down the achievers'.
A few years ago, New Zealand ranked 34th of 35 countries in a major international study about school bullying. We should be ashamed of ourselves. These children learn from their parents says Janice Davies founder of Selfday - an annual Self Esteem Awareness day, so it's about time the adults 'grew up' and shifted their thinking.
As the new President of the International Council, representing 140 countries, Janice says it's sad our wonderful country has such a bad report.
"Self Esteem is the keystone to success" and she invites others to change their thinking. Talk about their daily success over the dinner table and how they can learn from our stars while raise themselves and their families to a new level of personal success.
If people could think of 3 things they like about themselves physically, e.g. nose, toes, belly button 3 things they are good at eg. quick thinker, computer skills, cooking and added more on to their list every day, they'd be happier and more successful.
Janice will be giving a free presentation in Auckland called "Step Up To Your Power" at the end of March and donating the income to the Christchurch appeal. Email for more information.
More information available from janice@attitudespecialist.co.nz